One of my many guilty pleasures is watching 90 Day Fiance on tv. Yes, I know, but it just pulls me in every time! 🙂
Anyway, last week I was watching the Tell All show for 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days and the sister of one of the couples in the show made a very important statement that really got me thinking more on the topic of relationships.
She asked the woman, who was in a relationship with her brother, whether she knew a lot about him including what was his favourite colour was. To which the woman didn't have a clue. Let alone she didn't know he was engaged twice before, which came as a huge shock to her when she just found out!
But this was only leading up to the point....the sister then went on to state boldly that she feels the woman is only in this relationship because it gives her what she needs and is not really bothered to know who her partner really is. She just wants someone to love her and spoil her. To which the woman in question didn't say anything.
So, how many women are doing the same thing? I hate to say this, but there could be many staying in relationships, not concerned with who they are in a relationship with, but just wanting someone there to ease the pain. (This also applies to men too. I'm sure there are many men who do this too)
Ladies, if you know that this could be you, please value yourself and take the necessary action not to let this continue. Now I am not saying that you have to leave the relationship, hell no, especially if its a good one and you are happy.
BUT please take some time out to really get to know your partner. Get to know about their past, what they really truly like and dislike. Don't think that all partners like the same thing. Treat them as the individual that they are and really get to know them.
Oh and yes get to know what their favourite colour is! Something so basic, but could come in handy when buying them a present right? 🙂
But on a serious note - I want you to be aware that if you are going into a relationship to fill a gap in your heart and leaning on the hope that they will fix what is broken - Don't do this!
It is not their responsibility to do this for you, it is your own. Don't go into a relationship broken. Go into a relationship as a whole person, who can fully bring something to the relationship.
Relationships work so much better when both are able to start as two whole people who have come together to share and enjoy each other and life.
I don't believe that once you enter into a relationship it completes you. You should come to the relationship already completed. It's way more attractive and fun.
So if you are in a relationship right now or you are thinking of finding a new partner after breaking up with someone. I want you to really make sure that you are in it because you truly love everything about your partner and you know them and you are completely healed from past relationships.
Don't take that baggage with you to your next relationship.
It takes two people to make a relationship work, not one person mending the broken pieces of the other's heart. That is never what should be expected in love.
True love is sharing as well as caring.
So take some time out today or this weekend, to really get to know your partner and maybe get to know yourself a little bit more in the process.
Remember, just because you have someone to love, doesn't mean you can't give yourself a bit more loving too.
Until next time
Peace & Blessings
Coach Rita xoxo
Embracing Your True Self
Think Big - Make the impossible - I'm Possible
This blog post is copyrighted by Coach Rita Hurry of Swasthya Living.